Consider that your children may actually be right and you may actually be wrong in any given situation. The lesson here is to try to consider points of contention from your child’s perspective as well as your own. While you must provide “grown-up” global perspective (safety, the consequences of actions, the effects on the family dynamics, etc.) when it comes to providing advice, it is crucial to remember what the author Steven Covey said in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” It may not be easy, but it is absolutely crucial, that you equally consider your child’s frame of reference as well as your own before making a decision with the assumption that being the parent automatically means being correct. Try stepping back from being the parent in your next couple of disagreements and let your inner child arbitrate the solution.
The
Father’s
Blog
Please enjoy The Father’s Blog – a short yet wise offering from the Divine Masculine perspective, in this case my husband Mickey Nelson, father to our 4 children and 6 grandchildren. I hope you enjoy his perspective.
My Name is Mickey Nelson. I am privileged to be the husband of Sue Broudy, the creative genius of this website. Sue and I have shared many, many awesome experiences together, but none more awesome or important than that of having become both parents and now, grandparents. Together we cherish the role of teaching…. and being taught by our two generations of children.
I’m in my seventies and the father of two sons, two daughters, and grandfather to six grandchildren. Now that all our kids are adults, and I find new ways to relate to them – like listening better and not trying to DO for them – I relish being a grandfather. It is a lot like being a father, only with a great deal more perspective and wisdom.
Please enjoy some of this perspective and thank you for taking the time.